On being a good enough mom

We know we can't be perfect, no one can, but as a mother it is a difficult concept to remember. We believe that if we aren't perfect moms and wives and women, then we're failing. The truth is that we are good enough, even in our imperfections. Read this excerpt from Wit and Delight about being a good enough mom. 

"When caregivers let their humanity show in manageable ways in the safety of the family circle, children learn big lessons: The world still turns when it doesn’t revolve around them. Parents should be safe but cannot be all-powerful. Do not be surprised by your own shortcomings. Be patient, be prepared to problem solve, and be aware of your own responsibility.

Acceptable. Adequate. These are good; they are enough.

“Good Enough” isn’t just passable – it’s the only real option. The “Best Mother” bill of goods begins in fear of pain or failure, vulnerability or lack of control, feelings of inadequacy or uncertainty about personal worth, pride, comparison and incorrect assumptions about others, unobtainable standards, or impossible expectations. In truth, no one is either a) perfect or b) surrounded by and steeped in perfect circumstances. Shame, disgust, or denial in response to honest human mistakes is misdirected and unhelpful."

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Mindy Kaling on Learning to be a Mother

Not everyone is a baby person. That doesn't mean you won't be a good mother one day. Read what Mindy Kaling had to say about her change of perspective when she became a mama. 

“[Motherhood] is really profound and strange. I was not a kid person at all. I was the person, if you had a baby at a party, I would go up to them and shake their hand and be like, ‘Hello.’ So, I didn’t know or understand how to be around babies. I was on planes and when babies would cry, I would be mad at the families. Now I’m like, ‘Let them cry, let them do whatever they want. They can sit on me and poop if they want.’ Now I know more.” - Mindy Kaling

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